Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup #226

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Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup There is no doubt that getting over a breakup is not easy for either partner . And it is that, among other things, healthy relationships are one of the things that provide us with the greatest satisfaction and happiness.

This is one of the main reasons why when they end up being the opposite: something that causes us great psychological discomfort that decreases our life satisfaction.

Of course, no one is perfect, and it is also common for us to make certain mistakes (which are even very similar in the vast majority of cases ) when we have to face a breakup.

Fortunately, it is usually a matter of following certain guidelines and taking that one day at a time very seriously to verify that everything is calming down and that little by little we are overcoming what at first seemed like a great and eternal tragedy.

Wallow in the feeling of loneliness and insecurity

A common reaction is to let all our attention and energy focus on finding someone to blame for what has happened . However, you must bear in mind that (except in extreme situations) it is a relationship that was built by two, so the healthiest thing is to distribute the blame, the reproaches and the responsibilities between both of them.

What’s more, reflecting on your behaviors can be beneficial for you, since it is an excellent way to learn from mistakes. Of course, focusing on the fact that this is nothing more than a reflection to move forward with more force.

Rush

At first, you may be tempted to sign up for lots of things to keep your mind occupied, or there may be people around you who suggest that you do so.

While it is true that it is very healthy to introduce new and positive things into your life, it is also not convenient to overdo it or pretend to be busy all day just so you don’t think .

Also, discarding activities that you just started because they didn’t really motivate you that much is not ideal to feel better either.

On the other hand, it can also happen that you don’t feel like anything. Obviously, neither extreme is good. It is simply about waiting for the right moment to incorporate different routines into your life. This, of course, will be when you are really ready and wanting.

let demotivation win

Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup In the most intense cases, the personal process that triggers a love breakup may be accompanied by painful recurring thoughts about what happened.

In that case, it is necessary to focus on the fact that, no matter how many negative feelings we have at that time, it is nothing more than a phase that we cannot let go on for a long time.

It is necessary to fully recover your well-being, adapting to this new personal situation, so do not hesitate to ask for professional help if you feel stuck.

Feeling slighted or abandoned

Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup It is logical that after a breakup, feelings of insecurity and loneliness erupt, making us feel abandoned, since, among other things, we are moving away from a person who was one of our main supports.

It is also common to think that we are going to stay like this forever or that we are not going to be good enough for anyone.

To get out of that negative loop, something that gives very good results is to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. Take it as a moment to redefine yourself and reflect on what you want to do next. That can be really motivating and a great generator of illusions and projects.

Keep insisting

When you are going through a breakup, it is best that between you and your partner there is space and time so that you can reflect on what has happened on your own, as well as to learn to be without each other .

To conveniently close that cycle, don’t fall into the trap of social networks where you can see what the other person is doing, if they are dating someone else and many other things.

This does not mean that you never have to see each other again . Simply, it is convenient not to see or know anything about each other for (at least) a prudent time, until the wounds heal or there is no risk of falling into reproaches and arguments.

As you have seen, the mistakes that almost all of us make when we go through the grief of a love break can be solved by following certain guidelines and letting time put everything in its place. They can even help you grow as a person.

However, there is a possibility that, depending on your case and how difficult it is to move forward, you need to turn to mental health professionals . Here we will be happy to help you find the best solution that allows you to fully overcome this duel.

[Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup](https://techoder.com/2023/04/07/mistake-we-all-make-when-getting-over-a-breakup/) There is no doubt that getting over a breakup is not easy for either partner . And it is that, among other things, healthy relationships **are one of the things that provide us with the greatest satisfaction and happiness.** This is one of the main reasons why when they end up being the opposite: something that causes us **great psychological discomfort that decreases our life satisfaction.** Of course, no one is perfect, and it is also common for us to make certain mistakes (which **are even very similar in the vast majority of cases** ) when we have to face a breakup. _Fortunately, it is usually a matter of following certain guidelines and taking that one day at a time_ very seriously to verify that everything is calming down and that little by little we are overcoming **what at first seemed like a great and eternal tragedy.** ## **Wallow in the feeling of loneliness and insecurity** A common reaction is to let **all our attention and energy focus on finding someone to blame for what has happened** . However, you must bear in mind that (except in extreme situations) it is a relationship that was built by two, so the healthiest thing is to distribute the blame, the reproaches and the responsibilities between both of them. What’s more, reflecting on your behaviors can be beneficial for you, since it is an excellent way to learn from mistakes. Of course, focusing on the fact that **this is nothing more than a reflection to move forward with more force.** ## **Rush** At first, you may be tempted to sign up for lots of things to keep your mind occupied, or there may be people around you who suggest that you do so. While it is true that it is very healthy to introduce new and positive things into your life, **it is also not convenient to overdo it or pretend to be busy all day just so you don’t think** . Also, discarding activities that you just started because they didn’t really motivate you that much is not ideal to feel better either. On the other hand, it can also happen that you don’t feel like anything. Obviously, neither extreme is good. It is simply about waiting for the right moment to incorporate different routines into your life. This, of course, will be when you are really ready and wanting. ## **let demotivation win** Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup In the most intense cases, the personal process that triggers a love breakup may be accompanied by painful recurring thoughts about what happened. In that case, it is necessary to focus on the fact that, no matter how many negative feelings we have at that time, it is nothing more than a phase that we cannot let go on for a long time. It is necessary to fully recover your well-being, adapting to this new personal situation, so **do not hesitate to** **ask for professional help** **if you feel stuck.** ## **Feeling slighted or abandoned** Mistake we all make when getting over a breakup It is logical that after a breakup, feelings of insecurity and loneliness erupt, making us feel abandoned, since, among other things, **we are moving away from a person who was one of our main supports.** It is also common to think that we are going to stay like this forever or that we are not going to be good enough for anyone. To get out of that negative loop, something that gives very good results is to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. Take it as a moment to redefine yourself and reflect on what you want to do next. That can be really motivating and a great **generator of illusions and projects.** ## **Keep insisting** When you are going through a breakup, it is best that between you and your partner there is space and time so that you can **reflect on what has happened on your own, as well as to learn to be without each other** . To conveniently close that cycle, don’t fall into the trap of social networks where you can see what the other person is doing, if they are dating someone else and many other things. This **does not mean that you never have to see each other again** . Simply, it is convenient not to see or know anything about each other for (at least) a prudent time, until the wounds heal or there is no risk of falling into reproaches and arguments. As you have seen, the mistakes that almost all of us make when we go through the grief of a love break can be solved by following certain guidelines and letting time put everything in its place. **They can even help you grow as a person.** However, there is a possibility that, depending on your case and how difficult it is to move forward, you need to turn to mental health professionals . Here we will be happy to help you find the best solution that allows you to fully overcome this duel.
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